What I Wish I’d Said Because I’m No Lady!

What I Wish I’d Said Because I’m No Lady!

A lady is an uptight, suburban, church-going bitch who thinks I might be dangerous. And you’re calling me a lady? A lady is hairspray and perfume shuffling down the Campbell soup aisle of the local King Soopers. Do I look like a lady to you? A lady eats salad with the proper fork and never all of it because she can’t imagine what cucumbers might do to her girlish figure. Have you seen me eat? A lady speaks softly. “Excuse...

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Same Story Except for Mad Men and White Supremacists

Same Story Except for Mad Men and White Supremacists

At dinner with friends, my husband mentioned Mad Men.  He’s been catching up on that old television series. Our friend shook his head. He couldn’t watch that series. There was nothing about the fifties and early sixties that he wanted to relive. The conversation moved on. Maybe it’s a sign of having really moved on because I was home getting dressed for bed before I realized what he meant. He was a black man starting his...

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Family Stories are #1 Legacy (not money) According to Poll

Family Stories are #1 Legacy (not money) According to Poll

According to a recent US News report, 86% of the Boomer Generation believes family stories are “very important” and make a more important legacy than money. (see Family Stories, Not Money, Is Best Legacy dated May 21, 2012). The article by Phil Moeller (@PhilMoeller) notes that when people think about their estates and inheritances, they tell pollsters that passing along personal and family values trumps possessions. Generations...

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Mothers, Stories, and the Gift Economy

Mothers, Stories, and the Gift Economy

Opened my email this morning and found several suggestions for remembering Mother’s Day–flowers (of course), a BOSE Radio, AirRibs, Godiva chocolates, a Mother’s Wisdom deck of cards (not sure what that is exactly), an Audiobook, and some kind of solar powered dancing flower knickknack. Not going there. With the recession, supporting the consumer economy is not a bad idea. However, I don’t think we talk enough about the...

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Why Worry About Family Stories?

Why Worry About Family Stories?

Why Family Stories? Unless we pause to ask, “Why that story,” or “Why that story told that way,” we may find ourselves trying to live the story we’ve always heard. In my family we tell great love stories. Listen long enough and you might spend your whole life waiting to be swept off your feet. Stories get better with time. Families exaggerate because they want the stories to be remembered. Pay attention. The whoppers contain clues as...

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